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Episode 10: Hand in Hand Parenting Philosophy

2017-04-19 2 0 102 YouTube

Thanks for watching this episode of The Family Couch Episode 10: Hand in Hand Parenting Philosophy EPISODE INFO: In this episode of The Family Couch with with Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore we discuss the theory called Hand in Hand Parenting Philosophy, which states that children are will become independent or be eager learners if they feel a safe connection with the adult trust. Throughout the episode Patty and Tosha share five simple tools on how to create connections with your children and warn us against the negative impact that can occur if we do not take the time to nurture these connections at an early age. We immediately dive into the five tools that are recommended to assist with creating a deep connection with your children. FIrst, Special Time. Patty explains that letting the child direct the time with you is crucial to creating a bond. Second: Stay Listening. Letting your child express him or herself and just staying there. Choosing to stop what you are doing and just be during their time of need. Third: Listening Partnerships. Exchanging listening time parent to parent. Finding a parent that you can bounce ideas, confusion or just sadness out. Fourth: Play Listening. Choosing to bring laughter into your time with your child and reaping the benefit of this special time. Fifth: Setting Limits. This is never last and incredibly important so your child (and you) have clear boundaries for how your relationships will grow. We also discuss in detail into the importance of a listening partnership and the benefits it can bring for a parent. Tosha explains the ins and outs on how to obtain one, how it works, and why you do not want your Listening Partner to be someone within your social circle. She explains the differences between a friend and a listening partner and how incredibly beneficial it has been in her parenting journey. Lastly we talk how to implement Hand in Hand Parenting even if this style parenting is drastically different than what has been practiced in your household. Patty explains that for children, there is never a time that is “too late.” Children want to be heard and to know their feelings matter, particularly by the people they love. Both Patty and Tosha warn that even though Hand and Hand Parenting can be implemented at any age, younger children are more open and forgiving in more situations. ******************************************************** GUEST BIO: Patty Wipfler is the author of the book Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. She was born, raised and educated in California, graduating from Occidental College in 1968, and is the mother of two sons. The focus of her work since 1974 has been teaching basic listening, parenting, and leadership skills to parents. She directed The School, a non-profit parent cooperative preschool in Palo Alto, and later directed Neighborhood Infant Toddler Center for Palo Alto Community Child Care. She has led over 400 residential weekend workshops for families and for leaders of parents in the U.S. and in 23 countries. Tosha Schore, M.A., is a Hand in Hand Trainer, parent coach, and writer. She is the co-author of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges.” Tosha is the mother of three boys, and an advocate for boys and their families worldwide. She is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time, by supporting parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. Tosha supports parents online, offering courses on raising boys & listening partnerships for moms and dads, as well as personalized parent coaching. She is also a gifted speaker and retreat leader. ******************************************************** CONNECT WITH PATTY WIPFLER & TOSHA SCHORE: Website: Facebook Page: Twitter: Instagram: YouTube: Listen, the book: ******************************************************** Be sure to subscribe to the channel for updates on weekly updates! ******************************************************** FOLLOW AND SUBSCRIBE: Facebook Community: Twitter: Instagram: YouTube Channel: ******************************************************** WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Please share in the comments what you think about the episode, questions you have about the topic, and any other comments you’d like to share.